I'm a homebody, no doubt about it. I'm
perfectly content with my own company, so it doesn't bother me in the
least to have hours, days, and weeks pass between visits with my
friends. Those who know me best have come to accept my hermit-like
ways as endearing. It's even a joke among my friends and I that I'm
pretty much notorious for never initiating contact.
Not everyone is quite so comfortable
with so much time and space to themselves, however. If you've reached
that awkward stage in your relationship where you need to give each
other some breathing room, I have some words of advice for enjoying personal space without going crazy.
- Take a Night Off – Time away is important. If you're just starting a new relationship it's easy to maintain at least one night a week to yourself to do anything you want to do. This could be anything, or nothing at all. You decide, it's your time to spend as you please. Be sure to treat your sweetie to the same sort of luxury.
If you're in an
established relationship and you've found yourself firmly joined to
your partner's hip it may be a little tricky to get a night off.
Maybe consider chilling out in different parts of the house, or
simply doing something out of the ordinary, like taking the kids out
for ice cream.
- Do Your Own Thing – Remember that art class you've been meaning to take, but you've been too busy pouring all of your time and energy into your relationship? Well, now is the time to go take that class! Seriously, you're worth it. Never give up on your own growth, being involved in chasing your varied interests will only give you and your honeypie something new to talk about. That's a good thing, right?
Visit Friends – Are your
buddies complaining about how much time has passed since they last
saw you? This is a sure sign that you need to catch up with
friends. Plan a spa day, a golf outing, a LAN party, something that
will allow you to gather together and have fun.
Putting the FUN in Fundamentals
Everyone needs a
bit of solitude once in a while, a chance to get back to who they are
as an individual. The important thing to remember when seeking space
for yourself, or allowing your sweetheart some space when they ask
for it, is keep your attitude light and positive. This free time is
an opportunity for fun, relaxation, and adventure. Allow yourself
the opportunity to indulge often.
